Summer Success Series: What Are You Focused On

There are a lot of “Stuck” people out there.

We’re stuck because we’re depressed, in despair, hopeless, paralyzed by fear or failure …. just stuck!

Today’s walk with the mosquitoes and talk with my team was enlightening.   I had something totally different planned to share with them but was led to talk about this topic of focus.  When we were done, and I pushed play on my iPod, what do you know — more about being stuck and what you focus on.

So let’s talk about how you get “Un-Stuck”.

It all has to do with what you’re focused on.   We have a saying,

“What You Focus On EXPANDS!”

How true!   Whatever you fixate on … whatever you give your energy, time, and emotion to … GETS BIGGER!

Unfortunately, most people focus on — fixate on — their problems.   So they get bigger and Bigger and BIGGER until they consume and paralyze them.   Here’s what’s worse:

“What You Focus On MULTIPLIES!”

What?!   Seriously.   It’s all about Attraction.   Whatever your dominant thoughts are, YOU GET MORE OF!  We hate to admit it, but it’s true.  One of the reasons my first marriage ended in divorce is because we spent all of our time focused on Not Getting Divorced.   That made Divorce our predominant thought and that’s what we got — Divorced!   Guess we should have focused our energy on Staying Married, huh?  Or even better Marital Happiness and Fulfillment.    Now THAT would’ve been fixating on the right thing!

I became a Top 10 Money Earner in my last company and reached one of the highest ranks possible.   And I did it in record time.   People would ask me all the time, “how did you do it?”   The Answer:

“I thought about it ALL of the time!”

My predominant and daily thought — even in the midst of all sorts of problems and turmoil — was always achieving that level of success and how it would change my life for the better.  Focusing on that goal worked.   I’m doing it again right now!

I was watching Ripley’s Believe it Or Not and this guy set a record for walking across two buildings on this piece of nylon fabric.   (YES, HE’S CRAZY!!)  But he was interesting to watch.  The fabric was stretched between a window of one building and a window of the other.   From the time the guy started walking the line, his eyes were laser focused on the goal — the other window.   Just think when he took the first step, the target window on the other building was small — but with each step it got Bigger – until it was BIG enough for him to step through in accomplishment!

It’s just like that for YOUR goals, dreams, desires.

We could go on and on about this focus thing.   I just hope you get it and use it to empower yourself because it’s so easy to fixate on the bad stuff of life.   Here’s what blew me away on my iPod this morning:

As many good things happen on the worst day of your life as on the best day of your life. It’s all what you choose to look at.


The key to getting “Un-Stuck”? Change your focus!  Remember:

“Obstacles are what you see when you take your eyes off of the goal!”

So be like the crazy guy on the tightrope — DON’T LOOK DOWN!  Focus on the goal — the window — the window of opportunity that is wide open before you and getting BIGGER with every step you take toward it!

This Summer, let’s focus on taking our personal development and achievement to another level.   Success is yours for the taking.   Just keep your eyes on the prize and before you know it, you’ll be right up on it.

Here to help,


P.S., I want to know what you think about this.  Take a minute to post a comment to this article.


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8 responses to “Summer Success Series: What Are You Focused On

  1. Terrence, I am so blessesd that God led me to join with you in helping people get healthy, happy and wealthy with our Unicity products. Your talk today was very inspiring and we all need to keep uppermost in our minds that what we think is what we are. So many times during a day we are tempted to be irritated or negative about small happenings. The talk you gave this morning on keeping focused on what you want has helped me today to keep even any little negative thoughts and feelings out.

    I love our team! We are the best!!!

  2. Larry Harris

    This is exactly what I’ve been thinking about over the last couple of days. In my life’s journey I have a tenancy to hold onto bags that only weigh me down…bags of distrust, self-doubt, disappointment, fear or what ever. The result I become stuck and drained of my positive energy. I looked in the rear view mirror of my life to see which bags I need to leave behind. I will adjust my scope!

  3. Julie Krueger

    Paralyzed by Fear of Failure – This was my old story. This week my family started writting their new story. It’s called We Can, We Will, with Persistance & Consistance, and keeping our eye on our Goal. Thank-You T. Gray for all the help & support. It truly is Appreciated!

  4. shae crawford

    wow, that was a rhema (right now)word. It ministered to me more than you will know. TGray you are surely operating in the work God has birthed out of you. You stay encouraged and know that you are walking in your true calling! Love ya BIG BROTHER!

  5. Tallice


    Great insight!! I was once told..where there is Clarity of Vision (i.e. Focus) there is an Accelerated pursuit towards the desired goal!! Awesome blog!!

  6. shae crawford

    Wow, that was such a rhema(right now) word! It ministered to me on such a level I needed at that moment in time. TGray keep up this gift and the work God has birthed out of you! You are surely operating in your calling! Love ya big Brother!

  7. Jason Ferrell

    Great topic this morning. In the recent weeks, I have grown so much personally thanks to the camp. Now I realize why it is so important to stay focused on the prize. You are right, whatever you think about the most is what you attract. So many times, I think of what Im not going to do. Then I find myself stuck on that for a while. I am changing my focus so I can be stuck on my goals. Thanks…

  8. Pari Allen

    Guilty!!!! My focus has been totally off. I can’t afford it and have honestly not worked too hard to change it. Wow! I will get un-stuck!

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