Summer Success Series: Ask and You Shall Receive!

“Why does this always happen to me?”

Sound familiar?   Ever ask this question?  Did you know that questions have power?

You better believe it!    Questions direct your life, and if you know how to use their power, you can control your destiny!

Your sub-conscious mind is designed to answer questions.   You put questions in.   Answers come out.   It’s that simple.

But there’s 1 little problem:   It doesn’t differentiate between Good Questions and Bad Questions.    If you put in a Bad Question — a Dis-Empowering Question — like “Why Me?” or “Why does this ALWAYS happen to me?” — it doesn’t spit it out and say, “you don’t really want to ask that”.   Nope!   Instead, it does what it does — it answers it.

And those answers can be Brutal and Debilitating!

“…because you’re fat”    “… because she’s better than you”   “… because you’re uneducated”     “… because you’re black / white / asian / hispanic / male / female / too old / too young / too martian”    “… because people don’t like you”   “… because you’re always too late”    “… because you can’t speak well”

Get the idea?   Have you heard any of those answers in YOUR head?  If so, I promise that it’s because GIGO is true and real — Garbage In Garbage Out!   Put Bad Questions in and you will get BAD ANSWERS!  Answers that take away your power.   That cut you down.   That make you want to crawl up into a hole and die.   That make you want to give up the fight and live out the rest of your days working in someone else’s factory!

So what do you do?

You Have to Learn to Ask The Right Questions!  Empowering Questions!

That’s right.   If GIGO is true, so is the converse.   Put Good Questions in and get Good Answers Out!

Good Questions are Empowering Questions.   Questions that, the answers to them, are solutions, ways, means, avenues … open doors.

And there are 2 really good questions, that if you learn to ask them whenever Life challenges you, you can WIN any battle:

“How Can I ______________________________?”


“What Can I Do to ____________________________?”

Whatever your challenge is goes in the blank.  And it’s amazing what happens next!   Your mind starts searching for answers.   Solutions.

Sometimes they come immediately.   Sometimes they come later.   Sometimes a friend will “randomly” start talking about the solution to your challenge without you even bringing it up.   Your Pastor / Priest / Rabbi / or Other Religious Leader may preach on the answer to YOUR challenge on Sunday!  Or you may get one of those “hunches” in the middle of the night — better get up and write it down!

Other times the answer comes in the form of opportunities that seem to just “land in your lap” at just the right time!

This one happens to me all of the time — so much so that it no longer freaks me out — I’ll spin the dial on my iPod and land on a motivational audio where the speaker is talking about the solution to my Question Du Jour!   It just happened yesterday — WILD!

But that’s the way it works.   And if you learn to use it to your advantage — by learning to CONTROL the questions — you can become POWERFUL!

Bad questions give you answers that close doors.    You ever hear someone immediately run down the list of reasons why they CAN’T achieve something?  Like, “This sounds like a really good opportunity.  And I agree that this product/service is the answer to people’s needs.   But I’m too busy with my job, kids, church, and bowling league.”

You know what just happened there?   They’ve trained themselves over the years to ask themselves “What are all of the reasons why this won’t work for me?” instead of “How Can I make this work even with my busy schedule?”    Asking “How Can I __________?” forces the mind to start Googling the universe for solutions!  To find a way.  To Empower!

So here’s a challenge:   Think about your biggest hurdles that you need to overcome right now.   Or your next level of achievement.   If you’re reading this and your in my Summer Success Camp, think about your goal for the month and the fact that you have less than half the month remaining.

Now ask yourself, “How Can I ___________________?”    “What Can I Do to ____________________________?”   Insert your hurdle, next level of achievement, goal for the month in the blank.   And BE SPECIFIC!

Here’s what I mean:

“How Can I Achieve my goal of generating X amount of sales or volume in the next 2 weeks?”

Get it?

Just keep asking yourself this question over and over throughout the day — especially before you go to bed (your subconscious is most active then).   And be on the lookout for the answer.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.  Take a minute to hit the comment button at the end of this article and let me know what you think about the power of questions and how this might apply in your life.



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3 responses to “Summer Success Series: Ask and You Shall Receive!

  1. Well, by now most of the world knows that I am 79 years young….and proud of it! I just asked my subconscious what I could say on the blog that would be helpful. About 20 years ago I was in a very negative state of mind and suffering physically from it. I asked to be led out of that mire, and I was. I was led to read many inspirational writings, which lifted my thoughts and made me understand that my body and the events of my life reflected my thinking and emotions. So I found myself at 79, strong, healthy and asking God what I could do to help and bless others.

    Then one day T Gray called me about Unicity. So here I am in a vehicle that is enabling me to “stay home, have fun and bless people AND make money!

    It Works!

  2. I’ve tried really hard to give others good gigo but, seem to be using the wrong questions/words for myself. I will need to consciously decide daily to work on this. Old habits die hard for me.. I truly believe in the power of bringing about what you think about. But, it looks like I’ve been going about it all wrong. I’m gonna start filling in my blanks more often and see what happens. Thanks for the Challenge!

  3. Pari Allen

    This blog is very powerful! Once again you are in my face. I can honestly say that I have greatly underestimated the power of the subconscious. The time that I have spent reading and participating in Summer Camp over the past few weeks has helped me to take a closer look at what I’m REALLY saying to myself. When I “catch” myself asking the wrong questions or meditating on the obstacles, I quickly say outloud, “I can do ALL things through Christ that strengthens me!!”

    Great blog T. Gray!!

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