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Summer Success Series: “… it’s because you THINK that way!”

The Summer Success Camp Team and I had a really good one last night.    This was the HOT question:

“Why do you make what you make?”

As in, if you earn $50,000/year – why do you earn $50,000/year?    If you earn, $75,000 – 100,000/year — why?

The burning answer that nobody enjoyed:  “Because you THINK like a person who earns $50,000, $75,000, or $100,000/year!”

The follow-on question was even less fun:  “Why aren’t you a millionaire?”

The less delightful answer:

“Because YOU DON’T THINK LIKE A MILLIONAIRE!”

After letting the team stew and steam on this for a minute, we dug into the deeper explanation.

All of us are where we are because of our THOUGHTS — the way we THINK.  Most of us never realize it, but there is a direct link between the way that we think and the results we get.   It goes like this:

Your THOUGHTS — what you think about all the time — create your BELIEFS.

Your BELIEFS — what you think you KNOW to be True or Not True — determine your ACTIONS.

Your ACTIONS — what you DO or DON’T DO, WILL DO or WON’T DO — create your RESULTS — or lack of RESULTS — which, of course, are also …. RESULTS!

Your RESULTS — are what YOU GET or, you guessed it, DON’T GET!

We often ask the question,

“How did I get to this place?”

Now it’s time to realize the cause … it was your thinking.   And if you sit quietly and reflect honestly over the all the decisions you made (or didn’t make) on the path to your current situation, you’ll realize that it was your fundamental THINKING that lead you to your current results — good or bad.

Most people don’t want to believe this when the current result is a bad one.  They’d like to believe that there are other people and circumstances to blame.  I used to be that way too.   Accepting ultimate responsibility for a lack of results or a bad situation was a tough pill to swallow initially.

But I’ve come to love it this way.  Why?

Well, just think — if it’s SOMEONE ELSE’S fault, then you have to wait on THEM to fix it.   That means YOU are HELPLESS to effect a change in your situation.  And that pretty much makes you a VICTIM.

But if it’s YOUR fault … YOUR ultimate responsibility, then YOU can fix it.  You don’t have to wait on anyone.   The POWER to create change, and the ability to determine WHEN change will begin, rests entirely with YOU!

Now do you see why I like it this way?

So how do you create change?

First, realize that it’s not a Linear equation.   It’s actually a Cycle.  Like this:

This is very important to understand.   Since it’s a cycle, it REINFORCES itself.

Your THOUGHTS determine what you BELIEVE.

What you BELIEVE determines your ACTIONS — what you DO, DON’T DO, WILL DO, & WON’T DO.

Your ACTIONS create your RESULTS — what you GET or DON’T GET.

And your RESULTS either CONFIRM or INVALIDATE your THOUGHTS which determines whether you get more of what you been getting or make changes.

Since it all springs from THOUGHTS, the key is you have to Take Control and Change the way you THINK.

Let’s face it, when it comes to our THINKING, there’s not one of us who couldn’t use an upgrade.

And like I challenged the group, if you THINK BETTER, you’ll get BETTER RESULTS.

If you THINK BIGGER, you’ll also get BIGGER RESULTS.

Why are Millionaires millionaires?  Because they THINK like Millionaires.   Think like a Millionaire and you’ll start to get millionaire results.

So how do you get BIGGER, BETTER THINKING?

PROGRAMMING!

Programming is WHY WE THINK WHAT WE THINK.    We all got our initial programming from our parents, school, church, the books we read, the shows we watched, the movies we’ve seen.

It’s actually part of the cycle … like this:

So now that you’re an adult, the solution is simple:

Take Control of Your Programming

Wanna be a Millionaire?  Get some Millionaire programming.   There are tons of books, cds, and dvds out there by Napoleon Hill, T.Harv Eker, Brian Tracy and others that will enlighten you and help you learn new thoughts and change your beliefs.

Wanna be Successful? Get Success Programming!   Wanna be a better husband, wife, parent, friend, employee, gardener, whatever?  UPGRADE YOUR PROGRAMMING.

Upgrade your PROGRAMMING and you UPGRADE YOUR THOUGHTS.

UPGRADE your THOUGHTS and you CHANGE YOUR BELIEFS.

CHANGE your BELIEFS and YOU WILL TAKE DIFFERENT ACTIONS — you’ll have a NEW set of DOs, DON’Ts, WILLs, and WON’Ts.

Take different ACTIONS and YOU’LL GET BETTER RESULTS.

And when they ask you why you get what you get, you can tell them ….

… it’s because I THINK this way!

T.Gray

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Whew!  That was a lot!   But EXTRAORDINARY RESULTS REQUIRE EXTRAORDINARY ACTIONS … so this whole “Upgrade Journey” is both necessary and worth it!

As you grow and change, you’ll want an outlet for all of your newly developed positive energy.   You’ll want something where your results can truly be commensurate with your Thinking and Actions.

I’ve found such a thing.   We’re having fun.  We’re growing.   We’re making a difference in people’s lives.   And we’re making money.

Might be for you.  Might not be.   Take a look anyway.

http://www.terrencedgray.com/tgray.html

Be sure to fill out the contact information form so that you can see the actual website…

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Summer Success Series: Protect Your Mind!

A Mind is a Terrible Thing to Waste!

Remember that slogan from the Anti-Drug use campaign?   Simple but powerful.

But you don’t have to be on drugs to waste your mind.   Your mind can get wasted just as bad — if not worse — by negativity and bad influences.

The most important asset you have in your success journey is your mind, your psyche.    If you become what you think about all the time … if what you focus on expands … if you’re ultimate results are driven by how you respond and think about what happens to you …

… then your mind and the “shape” that it’s in is critical.

Attitude is everything.

You’ve heard that one a million times.   But what determines attitude?  Your mind.  Your predominant thoughts.   Your beliefs.   Your feelings.    All of which determine your Actions (or Inactions).   Which, of course, create your Results.

But it all starts with Thought.   And when it comes to Thoughts, GIGO is unforgivingly true — Garbage In Garbage Out.

Where does the “garbage” come from?   This list is painfully long — television, movies, radio, music, trashy novels, negative people (friends, family, spouses, co-workers, religious leaders, etc.), negative life experiences that you haven’t put in context, and the list goes on.

The battle for your mind is constantly raging….

… and YOU MUST WIN!

Here’s the good news:  Each of us can take control of what goes into our mind.   We can hire a new gatekeeper — a Goalie even! — to keep the Garbage and the Negativity out.   And only let the Empowering and Positive stuff in.

After all, your ultimate outcome in life will be the sum total of the people you associate with and the books/audios/videos you read/listen to/watch.    But YOU are in control!

This Summer I challenge you to Clean House!   Eliminate and/or limit all sources of negativity.   And make an “Active Choice” to identify sources of Empowerment and Positive Personal Development — and FEAST on that!

With a strong diet of Positive & Empowering, you’ll be amazed at your results.    Your life will change almost before your eyes — first, because you’ll be Seeing your world differently, and later because it will actually BECOME different.

You’re world and results will be different because you will be different — more positive, more enthusiastic, more encouraging, more solution-oriented, more possibility-minded — and, ultimately, more attractive.   And that attraction will begin to draw to you the people, circumstances, and opportunities that will create your best results ever!

Protect Your Mind — it’s your ticket to ride!

T.Gray

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Summer Success Series: See It To Believe It!

“You’ve Gotta See It To Believe It!”

True!   When you can see the goal, you can reach it.   When you can see the target, you can hit it.   When you can see the prize, you can obtain it.

But what does “Seeing” it really mean?

The Dream.   You’ve gotta have one.   A Dream.  A Vision.  It needs to live in your mind’s eye first, and then you’ll be able to go for it.

Your dreams can pull you toward your goals.   They provide the daily drive — the daily fire — that will propel you to take the actions necessary for those dreams to become reality.

The problem:   Most people have stopped dreaming.

Remember when we were kids?   We had such BIG dreams!  Nothing was impossible.   Nothing was too grand or too far-fetched.

And then we grew up…

And suddenly there were “limitations”.  Somebody taught us to be “realistic”.  We forgot that we had the power to “create” reality.

It’s sad.  Without dreams — you’re dead.  You merely exist — going through the motions daily until you body catches up with your imagination and …. dies.

So I’m daring you to dream again.   In color.  BIG.  Unlimited.

And as clear as day.

You have to be able to see the future finished in advance.   You have to see the finish line while you’re running the race.   Only then will you be able to pay the price of success.

What is YOUR dream?   I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.  Take a minute to hit the comment button at the end of this article and let me know what you think about the struggle to dream and to make the dreams come true.

T.Gray

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If you like what you’ve been reading and you’d like to work with me more closely, Click this link to see what I’m working on these days? http://tgray.itsthiseasy.biz Fill in your contact information and you’ll be able to see the good stuff…

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Summer Success Series: Ask and You Shall Receive!

“Why does this always happen to me?”

Sound familiar?   Ever ask this question?  Did you know that questions have power?

You better believe it!    Questions direct your life, and if you know how to use their power, you can control your destiny!

Your sub-conscious mind is designed to answer questions.   You put questions in.   Answers come out.   It’s that simple.

But there’s 1 little problem:   It doesn’t differentiate between Good Questions and Bad Questions.    If you put in a Bad Question — a Dis-Empowering Question — like “Why Me?” or “Why does this ALWAYS happen to me?” — it doesn’t spit it out and say, “you don’t really want to ask that”.   Nope!   Instead, it does what it does — it answers it.

And those answers can be Brutal and Debilitating!

“…because you’re fat”    “… because she’s better than you”   “… because you’re uneducated”     “… because you’re black / white / asian / hispanic / male / female / too old / too young / too martian”    “… because people don’t like you”   “… because you’re always too late”    “… because you can’t speak well”

Get the idea?   Have you heard any of those answers in YOUR head?  If so, I promise that it’s because GIGO is true and real — Garbage In Garbage Out!   Put Bad Questions in and you will get BAD ANSWERS!  Answers that take away your power.   That cut you down.   That make you want to crawl up into a hole and die.   That make you want to give up the fight and live out the rest of your days working in someone else’s factory!

So what do you do?

You Have to Learn to Ask The Right Questions!  Empowering Questions!

That’s right.   If GIGO is true, so is the converse.   Put Good Questions in and get Good Answers Out!

Good Questions are Empowering Questions.   Questions that, the answers to them, are solutions, ways, means, avenues … open doors.

And there are 2 really good questions, that if you learn to ask them whenever Life challenges you, you can WIN any battle:

“How Can I ______________________________?”

and

“What Can I Do to ____________________________?”

Whatever your challenge is goes in the blank.  And it’s amazing what happens next!   Your mind starts searching for answers.   Solutions.

Sometimes they come immediately.   Sometimes they come later.   Sometimes a friend will “randomly” start talking about the solution to your challenge without you even bringing it up.   Your Pastor / Priest / Rabbi / or Other Religious Leader may preach on the answer to YOUR challenge on Sunday!  Or you may get one of those “hunches” in the middle of the night — better get up and write it down!

Other times the answer comes in the form of opportunities that seem to just “land in your lap” at just the right time!

This one happens to me all of the time — so much so that it no longer freaks me out — I’ll spin the dial on my iPod and land on a motivational audio where the speaker is talking about the solution to my Question Du Jour!   It just happened yesterday — WILD!

But that’s the way it works.   And if you learn to use it to your advantage — by learning to CONTROL the questions — you can become POWERFUL!

Bad questions give you answers that close doors.    You ever hear someone immediately run down the list of reasons why they CAN’T achieve something?  Like, “This sounds like a really good opportunity.  And I agree that this product/service is the answer to people’s needs.   But I’m too busy with my job, kids, church, and bowling league.”

You know what just happened there?   They’ve trained themselves over the years to ask themselves “What are all of the reasons why this won’t work for me?” instead of “How Can I make this work even with my busy schedule?”    Asking “How Can I __________?” forces the mind to start Googling the universe for solutions!  To find a way.  To Empower!

So here’s a challenge:   Think about your biggest hurdles that you need to overcome right now.   Or your next level of achievement.   If you’re reading this and your in my Summer Success Camp, think about your goal for the month and the fact that you have less than half the month remaining.

Now ask yourself, “How Can I ___________________?”    “What Can I Do to ____________________________?”   Insert your hurdle, next level of achievement, goal for the month in the blank.   And BE SPECIFIC!

Here’s what I mean:

“How Can I Achieve my goal of generating X amount of sales or volume in the next 2 weeks?”

Get it?

Just keep asking yourself this question over and over throughout the day — especially before you go to bed (your subconscious is most active then).   And be on the lookout for the answer.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.  Take a minute to hit the comment button at the end of this article and let me know what you think about the power of questions and how this might apply in your life.

T.Gray

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If you like what you’ve been reading and you’d like to work with me more closely, Click this link to see what I’m working on these days? http://tgray.itsthiseasy.biz Fill in your contact information and you’ll be able to see the good stuff…

Or Call me at 347-668-9484 or email tgray@terrencedgray.com to catch up..

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Life’s Wisdom — This will make it better…

Wasn’t gonna post today, but my friend & business partner, Julie Krueger, sent this to me and it’s got real power!

Read it and get a blessing…  and be sure to post a comment when you’re done!

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Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland , Ohio

“To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me.
It is the most-requested column I’ve ever written.”

My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.

8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.

12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey
is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; God
never blinks.

16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17.. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.

18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.

19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is
up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for
an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t
save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ‘In five years, will
this matter?’

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive everyone everything.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did
or didn’t do.

35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood.

38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s,we’d
grab ours back.

41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

42. The best is yet to come.

43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44. Yield.

45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.”

Its estimated 93% won’t forward this. If you are one of the 7% who will, forward this with the title ‘7%’.
(Just copy this link into an email or Facebook post   http://wp.me/pKxaE-dU — it’s that simple!)

I’m in the 7%.

Remember that I will always share my spoon with you!

Friends are the family that we choose for ourselves.

If you can learn from hard knocks,
you can also learn from soft touches.

Regina, Julie, thanks for the wisdom and the blessing!  We’re getting the word out!

T.Gray

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Summer Success Series: The Power of Your Dream

This summer, I’m coaching a group of people from my business on how to drive their business and create success during the Summer months.   It’s called the Summer Success Camp.  We’re on Day 2 and having a blast.   We’re all excited and energized about the possibilities.

Here’s what I shared with the group this morning.   It inspired me when I first heard it.  It inspired the group this morning.   And I believe it’ll do the same for you also.

Things begin between you and God through your imagination called a Dream.
Your Dream creates Thoughts.
Your Thoughts produce Intense Desire.
Intense Desire is the foundation of all success.
Intense Desire creates Words.
Words create Action.
Action produces Effort.
And only Effort gets Results.

Want Results?  Change the way you Think.

And the best and fastest way to do that is through a dream.

Powerful, huh?   Why is the really deep stuff always so ….. simple?

Here’s your challenge for today:

Re-Connect with your Dream!

As a matter of fact, share your dream with us.   Just reply to this blog — post a comment and share your dream.

Think about this though before you say that your goal is to achieve Triple Backflip Grand Puba Diamond or whatever your company’s top rank is.   That is NOT your dream!   Your dream is what that MEANS to you.  What achieving that level of success will enable and empower you to do.   That’s your dream.    So make sure you figure that out and share it with us.

Be inspired!

T.Gray

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Note:   I personally believe that it’s a leader’s responsibility to provide an environment where people can succeed.  My partners and I have made that commitment and have been providing that environment for years.   The success stories are great.   And we’re helping many right now to realize their highest levels of achievement ever.

If you’ve been looking for a place where you can get the knowledge you need to succeed, access quality coaching with integrity, and have a genuine opportunity to win — we need to talk right away.

You can contact me at 347-668-9484 or tgray@terrencedgray.com.

You can also see the vehicle that we’re using to create success and empowerment here:  www.terrencedgray.com

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Summer Success Series: Dave Severn on “Failure”

Talk about standing on the shoulders of giants!   I was listening to Dave Severn on my iPod during my walk this morning.   And outta nowhere he lights into the meaning of “failure”.

Since we all have to deal with failure at some level on our way to achieving our dreams, I’ve gotta share this with you.  Let’s slay this demon called failure, so we can move on to our highest levels of success!

Failure doesn’t mean your a failure,it JUST means that you haven’t succeeded yet


Failure doesn’t mean you’ve accomplished nothing, it DOES mean that you’ve learned something

Failure doesn’t mean you’ve been a fool, it DOES mean that you have a lot of faith

Failure doesn’t mean you’ve been disgraced, it DOES mean that you’re wiling to try

Failure doesn’t mean you don’t have it,  it JUST means that you have to do something in a different way

Failure doesn’t mean you’re inferior, it JUST means that you’re not perfect

Failure doesn’t mean you’ve wasted your life, it JUST means that you have a reason to start afresh

Failure doesn’t mean you should give up, it JUST means that you should try harder

Failure doesn’t mean you’ll never make it, it JUST means that it’ll take a little longer

Failure doesn’t mean God has abandoned you, it DOES mean that God has a better plan for your life.

Thanks, Dave!   Wise words.

Keep pushing toward the dream, friends!

T.Gray

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Note:   I personally believe that it’s a leader’s responsibility to provide an environment where people can succeed.  My partners and I have made that commitment and have been providing that environment for years.   The success stories are great.   And we’re helping many right now to realize their highest levels of achievement ever.

If you’ve been looking for a place where you can get the knowledge you need to succeed, access quality coaching with integrity, and have a genuine opportunity to win — we need to talk right away.

You can contact me at 347-668-9484 or tgray@terrencedgray.com.

You can also see the vehicle that we’re using to create success and empowerment here:  www.terrencedgray.com

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